The only thing that matters is how you see yourself
A socializing hack I’ve picked up over the years.
Hello dear friend
I recently wrote an article “How to Rig The World In Your Favor: Lessons for my 19-year-old self.”
In today’s newsletter issue, I wanted to share a bit of that article with you.
You might not be the most attractive person in the room. But if you behave like you are, everyone else will see you as the same.
People are confused by confidence. If you’re confident in your body language, everyone seeing you will be shocked at where this confidence is coming from. Usually, good looks grant confidence, at least that’s what the perceived societal notion is. The reverse is also true: if you’re confident, you must be attractive.
This is a socializing hack I’ve picked up over the years.
If you walk into any room like you belong there and you’ve been there hundreds of times before, people will be drawn to you.
If you talk to people like you dictate the conversation, everyone will want to talk to you.
This is almost like “fake it till you make it,” except you won’t be faking it for long. The confidence you feign will soon become real, and after a few trials, it will become your second nature.
In my teens, I hated myself for being so shy. I thought no one wanted to be friends with me because I could never initiate a conversation. Now, I know better.
Now, I know if I act like I’m the most eligible potential friend in the room, everyone else will believe it.
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That’s all from my end today. I’ll see you again soon. Till then, stay strong. Keep smiling and be awesome.
With love,
Anangsha.